Dee Railleur

Does my psychologist have some duality going on too?  I’ve thought about this a lot more in the last few days.  To the point that I found a second person to help me understand my relationship with my psychologist.

She’s not a doctor, but she does offer the comfort of being able to say what’s on my mind without being judgemental.  She listens.

After our first meeting, she had me take the Myers-Briggs Personality Test.

Learning about and taking the test was worth the time and money I’d already spent talking to her.


I’m a Commander or ENTJ.  Not really surprising in hindsight.

“Commanders are bold, imaginative, and strong-willed, always finding a way – or making one.”

      • 52% Extraverted.  An important part of my duality.
      • 82% Intuitive.  “Intuitive individuals are very imaginative, open-minded, and curious. They value originality and focus on hidden meanings and distant possibilities.”
      • 62% Thinking.  “Thinking individuals focus on objectivity and rationality, often dismissing emotions in favor of logic. They tend to see effectiveness as more important than social harmony.”
      • 74% Judging.  “Judging individuals are decisive, thorough, and highly organized. They value clarity, predictability, and closure, preferring structure and planning to spontaneity.”
      • 86% Assertive.  “Assertive individuals are self-assured, even-tempered, and resistant to stress. They refuse to worry too much and tend to be self-confident when striving to achieve goals.”

Strengths and Weaknesses

The Strengths and Weakness section is mostly not surprising, except that I don’t find arrogance to be a weakness if a person is an expert at who they are or what they do.

Romantic Relationship is where it got interesting.

Romantic Relationship < Taking the Lead

“This sense of personal responsibility means that Commanders put a lot of energy into their relationships, and they show their creativity by always having something new on the agenda to keep things interesting, especially in the dating phase. At the same time though, Commander personalities keep their eyes on the long term, and if they determine that a relationship is heading towards a dead end, they will cut their losses and move on in what will seem to their partner an abrupt end to the attention they had been receiving.”

This is absolutely true.  It’s best for myself and the person who I’m in the relationship with.

This occasional ruthlessness with personal relationships is Commanders’ primary weakness, and if they aren’t careful they can develop quite the reputation.”

This is a backward understanding.  Being decisive, which can sometimes come across as “ruthlessness,” is not a weakness, it’s a strength.  One that I’m proud to have.

More about my thoughts on this assessment soon.