I’ve never had difficulty ending a relationship with a man who has reverted back to being a boy.
As usual, my, psychologist has a list of things I should do so things end properly <
- Choose the Right Time and Place: Find a private, safe, and neutral location to have the conversation. Avoid public places where emotions might escalate, and ensure both parties feel comfortable and secure.
- Be Honest and Direct: Be clear about your feelings and reasons for ending the relationship. It’s important to be honest, but also considerate of the other person’s feelings. Avoid vague statements that might give false hope.
- Use “I” Statements: Focus on your feelings and experiences rather than blaming or criticizing the other person. For example, “I feel that our paths are going in different directions” is more constructive than “You never make time for me.”
- Listen to His Perspective: Allow the other person to express their feelings. Be prepared for a range of emotions and try to remain empathetic, even if you don’t agree with everything they say.
- Set Boundaries for Post-Breakup Interaction: Discuss whether and how you both will interact after the breakup. This might include boundaries on communication, social media, and mutual friends.
- Plan for Your Emotional Well-being: Ending a relationship can be emotionally taxing. Plan some self-care activities and consider seeking support from friends, family, or a mental health professional.
- Safety First: If there’s any concern about a negative or violent reaction, consider having the conversation in a public place or with a trusted person nearby. In some cases, it may be safer to end the relationship via phone or text.
- Avoid Giving Mixed Signals: After the breakup, it’s important to stick to your decision and maintain the boundaries you have set. This helps both parties to move on.
Honestly, I think she gets things like this out of her “how to be a psychologist” book.
Combining a few of her ideas <
- Public or Private. I want this to be in a public place. After all, it’s as much of a celebration as the beginning of the relationship was.
- His perspective. For a short time, I will. But if there’s snivelling involved, it’s time for him to leave.
- Boundaries. Don’t contact me again. Simple and too the point so there’s not mixed signals.
More soon,